1. Work on thy Temperament.
How do you behave to others when you’re happy or moody? This and your pattern of thinking would define your temperament. Knowing what easily gets you angry, irritable or moody would help you place a check on how you’d allow people get on your nerve. Whether you’re Sanguine, Choleric, Melancholy or Phlegmatic; you have to know your temperament and the things you must avoid that would get you in a bad emotional and psychological state which could mar your relationship. Many failed to know their temperament and have allowed it to ruin their marriage due to the stress and challenges in marriage. Work on your temperament if you have a bad one.
2. Discover thy purpose.
A woman’s role isn’t confined to the bedroom or kitchen alone. It is a man with an archaic mentality that would want his woman to only raise children and put food on his table. I’m not saying this is not important but there’s more to marriage than that alone. Aside the primary function of a woman, what purpose do you want to live for? Your purpose, when balanced in proportion doesn’t have to get over your marriage. If you’re to be a suitable help meet, you need to know in what capacity you can function. It is possible to be a Proverbs 31 woman when you know your purpose beyond domestic chores or allowing yourself to be ‘used’ by every Tom, Dick and Harry before marriage.
3. Know thy God: “They that know their God shall be strong and do exploits”. You may be successful in life but you cannot have good success if you don’t know God. The God you know will guide you into knowing the kind of man you’d settle for in marriage. Queen Esther didn’t just settle for a man, a prince or one of the chiefs; she kept herself, knew her God and His favor brought her king.
NOTE: There’s a king in every man you can bring out if you’re married to the right man. You cannot bring out a king in a wrong partner; you’d only see his bad nature no matter how hard you try. When you know God, He will guide you into knowing the right man. The God you know will save you from time wasters, glory killers or destiny hunters that would ruin your purpose as a woman.
Have a relationship with God. Knowing God is more than being religious, it is more of an intimate relationship which is built over the years.
4. Love thyself.
Happiness is influenced by external factors. Love is first felt from the inside before it is expressed. No man can make you feel loved if you fail to love yourself. You’ll only idolize him. To love yourself, be happy with how you look like, have a good self-esteem, do what you enjoy and not what you’re coerced to do, be contented with what you have and be proud of yourself as a woman. No one can love you better if you fail to love yourself.
5. Work on thyself.
Nobody is perfect. We are all work in progress. Before marriage, while you’re single, you have every time to improve on yourself. Learn the things you cannot do better that will be useful when you’re married. Making good food, home management, child training, sewing and how to maintain cordial relationship (social) with others should be learnt. Instead of being busy wasting away time while you’re waiting to be married, convert those energies and resources into something productive so that it becomes a plus in your life in the future and not regret in the future.
6. Separate thyself from unfriendly friends.
It is good to have friends but worse when these friends do not contribute anything positive in your life but rather reduce your dignity and productive capacities. Any friend that doesn’t add value to you will take something valuable from you. Life and successful marriage is beyond gossiping, designer wears, fashion craze or spending heavily on worthless endeavors. Associate yourself with those you can learn from, not those who will unlearn what you know. If you can do these to yourself, coupled with prayers and a good spouse, you will enjoy marital bliss. So, what’s preventing you from improving your life before marriage?