You should build “YOU” before you ever think about building a marriage. “i will die without you.” “i cannot live without you.” “if you go away, my world will crumble.” who said these are romantic statements? Those statements are not romantic!
They reflect an addictive dependency. instead of being addicted to a substance, you are addicted to a person. “i need a man.” “I need a woman.” No!! you need God!! and you need His holiness. God is saying, “please get your act together as an unmarried person. Get your standards and values settled”. If you cannot control your emotions, your passions, your feelings, your attitudes, your bad habits or your behavior as you are single now, then you are not prepared for marriage. If you need to get married to be fulfilled or loved, you are not ready for marriage. The very thing that makes you need to get married will become the problem in your marriage. Men, before you go chasing a woman, make sure she is someone you can chase until death do you apart. Discover yourself first. Know yourself and find yourself through Christ before you start looking for a partner. All your secrets and depression and frustration and baggage and all your issues. if you look at yourself, you yourself will not want to take yourself home. Yet you want someone to take you home. I am scared of anyone who is impatient for marriage. Because you are just a parasite looking for a host. Be an asset to your partner not a deficit Majid Michels.