Don’t allow yourself to become so busy that you can’t spend 15 minutes a day talking with your wife. By the way, the last 15 minutes of your day when you’re utterly exhausted don’t count. If possible, use dinnertime as a place for conversation. If dinner doesn’t work, maybe it’s a five minute phone call at lunch and 10 minutes sitting on the sofa in the evening.
2. Act interested in what your wife has to say.
Notice I wrote “act.” I know the things we wives talk about can be boring, long-winded, dramatic or illogical (or all of the above). But if you simply act as if you care about what we’re saying, it means the world to us. Just picture yourself in a board room listening to a boring presentation by your boss. You would still act interested out of respect for your boss. Act interested in your wife’s comments, not always because the conversation is riveting, but because you love your wife.
3. Hug, cuddle, and kiss throughout the day.
It doesn’t have to be pure poetry to make her heart flutter. Write down the things you appreciate about her. Why are you glad you married her? Did she do something last week that you really liked? How is she doing a good job as a mother?
Let her know you want to hear all the details of her day over a nice, hot cup of coffee. If you have younger children, arrange for someone to watch the kids for an hour or two. On the date, hold her hand, open the door for her, and brag about her to the barista.
What’s a common question that little girls ask? Do I look beautiful daddy? It’s a question that grown women still wonder about. Women tend to be hard on themselves regarding their looks. We are afraid we don’t measure up in your sight. But if you look into your wife’s eyes and tell her she is beautiful, you will make her day!
7. Help with the household duties.
If you want to make your wife mad, say something like “Oh, I see you’re doing your annual vacuuming” (I know this from personal experience). But if you pick up around the house, help in the kitchen, and yes even vacuum without being asked, your wife will be incredibly thankful.
8. Notice what she worries about and reassure her.
Your wife is a security seeker. Maybe she’s worried about an upcoming move, a child’s development, or financial pressures. Strengthen yourself first in the Lord so you can then encourage your wife. Hold her and reassure her often that everything is going to be okay.
9. Bring her an unexpected gift.
Most women love gifts and it doesn’t really matter whether they come in small or big packages. Surprise her with a just-because bouquet of flowers or box of chocolates. Maybe she’s compiling a wish list online of things she wants. Take a peek and surprise her with one item from her list.
10. Open up to her about yourself.