If you want to know how someone wants the world to see them, look no further than the patterns in their social media feeds. This is never more true (or interesting, to be honest) than when it comes to their most intimate relationships. While it’s normal and even healthy to be proud and public about who you’re dating, there is at the same time a clear connection between how genuinely content you are with your relationship and how often you post about it. Here a few reasons for this.
You can make yourself feel better about a part of your life simply by thinking that other people see it differently
In other words, if we aren’t getting a “high” from the parts of our lives that we think are supposed to account for our emotional contentment, we seek that feeling elsewhere. Most commonly, this comes from how we think other people perceive the situation to be. (TL;DR: If we can convince ourselves that other people see our relationships happily, we feel happier about them, as we’re subconsciously shifting our point of view.)
When you’re happy with your life (or a relationship) you’re naturally more present for it
It occurs to you less to take photos or check your social media feeds. It’s not that you never do those things, but that your life is making you so happy, so why would you want to be distracted by it?
Any couple that keeps their intimate arguments or struggles offline is always better off
On the flip side of oversharing is going public with posting the things you’re not so happy about. But no matter what the context, an issue has never been resolved well after someone aired the dirty laundry for all of their Facebook friends (and family) to see.
Their relationship validates them, so they don’t need to seek that feeling externally
In other words, there seems to be little appeal in constantly writing updates about the relationship. Their joy is in being together, not in posting about being together.
They don’t have anything to prove
They are not using one another to prove to the world that they are happy and lovable and worthy and attractive. They’re together because they want to be, not because their deep-seated issues want them to be.