I believe the principle of honesty is critical and essential to our growth and happiness. This remind us that 4 out 10 commandments are related to dishonesty:
- Honesty builds trust, trust builds intimacy, and intimacy gives meaning to our relationships and friendship.
- Honesty is a requirement for trust to exist. Trust is truly the foundation of any relationship and I can say that without trust, there isn’t a relationship.
- Trust is necessary for intimacy to develop. Dishonesty creates disconnection, strife, and confusion.
- There’s an Irish proverb that says “when mistrust comes in, love goes out. The cost of dishonesty is dangerous and its promises are empty.
- There’s no such thing as having secrets – secrets really have us. We build walls to keep the truth out. We start to resent and withdraw.
- We become easily frustrated, extremely irritable, and consciously critical.
- We live in denial, justification, and rationalization, we deceive ourselves and make our lies be about the other person: victim-blaming at its finest
Deception destroys relationships because trust is fragile. Lies can break up friendships, marriages, and families. It seems easier to sweep things under the rug, to hide our true self so we don’t need to accept, confront, or face hard truths.
Thought of the day: Being honest is a conscious, pre-meditated choice one must make. It takes a split second to go either in the direction of transparency or toward telling lies. Be impeccable with your words