So, yesterday, Bestie and I got into what looked like our first money fight ever 🤪🤪. Not bad for a first time fight though 🙄🙄, the only thing I could remember saying in the heat was, “Can you be mad at me?”
We both know that’s not possible. At a point I said to her, “Babe you know you’re talking to me harshly, I know God is using you to perform miracles everywhere but that does not mean I cannot borrow you a hot slap😏😏.”
🤣🤣🤣, I’m just kidding, I didn’t say that, couldn’t have. It’was a good fight, and honestly I’m looking forward to another one (not sure I should be saying this right?🤣) but I am, if this is the calm, respectful, loving way we will always be handling this situations when they come. Last night we gave the enemy a big tongue out. When he thought we would flare up and get really mad at each other, we said “don’t be angry, I love you.” I know that must have hurt the enemy very much, and left him disappointed, it felt so good serving him a taste of his own bitter medicine.
Look guys, the only reason I’m sharing this is to teach someone else out here this important lesson. One of the most important first rules to make in your relationship is the rule of total surrender of your rights to anger.
This rule states that:
WE ARE NOT ALLOWED TO GET MAD AT EACH OTHER FOR WHATEVER REASON. DECIDING TO COMMIT TO THIS RELATIONSHIP MEANS THAT WE HAVE LOSTS ALL OUR RIGHTS TO ANGER.
Every relationship needs to take this pledge, before all the I LOVE YOU’s start flying in, before things starts getting serious, before feeding those butterflies in your stomach, it is important that you both commit to this first rule.
Hmmm, You know that point where you’re so eager to tell your partner he doesn’t have sense at all, but then you remember you have surrendered every right to say that to him.
That point when retaliating is your natural response to hurt, but you know you no longer have a right to hit or talk back at her no matter what she says or do.
That point where you begin to be conscious of the fact that even the thought of getting mad at her will attract a heavenly konk on your head. You know when God sets one heavy konck and says “shout at her let me see, just try it, if I don’t tear your head with konk call me God of Elijah.” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.
Then you try to be stubborn like Peter and respond like, “when your daughter is sharping her mouth anyhow there, You will not go and warn her now.”
God trying to be funny be like:
” ehenn, is it a new thing? That was how I created them. If she is sharping her mouth, you too sharp your ears and be hearing very well, I created you to listen.” 🤣🤣
That point when he is behaving like a total fat head, but you know you cannot call him out because you have lost all rights to judge his character, all you have is the right to love and forgive.
This point is called, THE POINT OF PEACE.