A young lady – Secondary school leaver came to me for counseling nine months ago saying a Medical Doctor wanted to marry her.
I smiled and got angry at the same time because I was convinced that the so-called Doctor is a PLAYER, PLAYBOY, VIRGIN HUNTER or FRAUDSTER.
I told her point blank to give me examples of Medical Doctors that married O-Level certificate holders but she couldn’t.
She said, it would start with her if it has not been happening before 😁😁😁
I knew it’s very rare, not impossible for a medical Doctor to settle down with a secondary school leaver except he got her pregnant and he was forced to take the responsibility having seen all the most beautiful ladies in University, Medical school and NATIONAL YOUTH SERVICE CORP (NYSC).
I told the lady to face her study and secure an admission into university instead of thinking about marriage at her age and level of education.
She told me the Doctor promised to send her to school after marriage and I smiled 🤣🤣🤣
I lashed her with words that she should stay away from the Doctor else she would regret it.
She rained the whole hell of insult and curse on me, abused me and became so rude but I stood my ground that this Medical Doctor is a liar.
She asked me, who do you think you are to tell me that? Is your wife or fiancee more beautiful than me? How much do make in a month? I am sure my savings in a month is more than your salary? I laughed so hard after asking me insulting questions 😁😁😁
She went to report me to a female relationship counselor and the young lady came to challenge me how on earth would I say because she’s an O’level holder that she’s not qualified to marry a Doctor?
She challenged me so fiercely and I was marveled.
I told her to give me some examples of medical Doctors he knows that married O’level holder.
She replied, there’s nothing God cannot do and I should not limit God in this matter.
I said, ” there are things God will never do, like lying 😀😀😀”.
I told the relationship counselor point blank that I was going to flog that young lady seriously assuming she is my younger sister for uttering that trash from her mouth when she’s just an O’level holder still with the plan of going to UNIVERSITY.
I am a man, I know how playboys, players and virgin hunters work.
I knew the Doctor is a VIRGIN HUNTER, PLAYER AND PLAYBOY who only wanted to deceive the lady and messed her life up.
To cut the long story short, the young school leaver came back to my inbox two months ago apologizing and begging me that I warned her but she refused and even insulted me.
She started asking for forgiveness and narrated how the Doctor took her virginity, slept with her several times and turned her to sex toys.
She even foolishly sent her nudes to the Doctor and the Doctor never sent his. He was smart!
Assuming it was only her virginity he took, it would have been minimal but she gave him some thousands of money thereafter of which the Doctor never gave her a dime throughout the six month sexualized boyfriend and girlfriend relationship.
There was a time the Doctor requested for 850k from her and she refused.
She lied she doesn’t have money despite she has some money in her savings.
This got him angry and made him maltreat her by starving her attention and pick her call and chat with her at will.
The Doctor finally broke up with her after he requested for another huge money and she declined.
Remember this young school leaver insulted me that she made enough money than me despite I call myself an Engineer.
She challenged me to show my account balance and she would prove to me that I am poor and she’s richer than so many graduates because she teaches in a primary school and run home lessons for pupils.
Finally, she concluded the Doctor used her and dump her when she couldn’t meet up with his excessive financial and sexual need.
The Doctor said he doesn’t need only a FUCKMATE but also FINANCIALMATE.
One common thing about this PLAYERS – VIRGIN HUNTERS they usually PROMISE MARRIAGE so as to rip off ladies physically, sexually, medically and financially.
The Doctor told her before breaking up with her, that she’s not the first virgin he would deflower. He has lost counts.
That means he has taken it as a duty to sleep with virgins and collect their money, maltreat them before breaking their heart. He knows virgins are novice in the world of relationship.
There was another 200level lady who confessed to me how a Medical Doctor promised her marriage, deflower her and slept with her severally before breaking her heart.
Why are my telling this true life story?
This is to inform my beloved sister and most especially VIRGINS to beware of PLAYBOYS, PLAYERS and VIRGIN HUNTERS who comes in sheep clothing, but inside of them is full of premarital sex and romance.
I have given this young school leaver the therapy to overcome the heartbreak and emotional trauma and I believe she would heal soon.
Many Ladies I have counseled have fallen victims of men like this all in the name of “I want to marry you” and many Ladies trip after seeing an handsome guy or ready made man.
Many sisters gets carried away with emotions forgotten not all that glitters is gold.
How do you know when you are in a relationship with a player as a Sister?
1. REQUEST PREMARITAL SEX OR ROMANCE.
Any man be it so-called Evangelist, Pastor, Apostle, Prophet, youths Leader, Choir Master or instrumentalist that requests premarital sex or romance from you is a PLAYER, PLAYBOY AND VIRGIN HUNTER.
Though they may claim to be a Christian and attend church but they do not know God.
Such man is of the devil and works for the devil.
Premarital sex or romance is not love. If premarital sex is Love, then prostitute would be the most loving.
Such will tell you that premarital sex cures menstrual pains;
if that’s true, what about married women who have sex every day and still experience menstrual pains?
Such will tell you that he is having stomach ache because he’s not having sex.
Such will tell you that his scrotum will burst if he doesn’t have sex.
My brother, Sir Kay married at the age of 32 and Dr. John Balogun who married at 30 years as a virgin respectively never experienced such in their entire single days.
My scrotum is yet to burst as a Sexual Puritan.
Such will tell you that he would die if he doesn’t have sex.
The truth is that, sex does not keep a man.
It’s either he leaves you after giving him sex or leaves you because you didn’t give him sex.
2. REQUEST NUDES
Any man on earth that requests your nudes doesn’t love you because he doesn’t love God.
He’s in lust. He has been attacked by the Demons of lust.
I have seen young ladies been blackmailed and exploited with their nudes. Don’t send that nude, rather break up with such Man immediately you discover such.
3. INCESSANT REQUEST FOR MONEY.
Such will pressure you to give money or else threaten you with break up.
Any man who is educated, well to do and working and still task you to bring money is a player.
I am not saying voluntary giving in a relationship is bad but players will force you to give and borrow money in a relationship and threaten to break up with you if you are unable to meet up with his financial demand.
Such want to use you and dump you.
A lady told me she gave a guy 500k to start business while the sinner, player and playboy married another woman with the money.
This same lady also told me her parents gave a lawyer who she was in a relationship with 350k yet still broke her heart when he refused him premarital sex despite collecting her premarital money.
4. USE SWEET WORDS.
Players have mastered the use of sweet words like Honey, sweetie, sugar pie, sweetheart, baby, my heart and very erotic and mind blowing sweet words and physical complement.
I am not saying those in courtship cannot use sweet words but I am talking about the tactics of players.
You know ladies are moved by they hear from guy’s mouth while men are moved by what they see in lady’s body.
He would send you lovely, erotic and romantic texts messages.
He would tell you how he loves your breasts and shape of your bumbum.
He would tell you how your beauty is the healing to his emotional sickness.
He would practically makes you ask for sex after using plenty sweet and erotic words on you.
He sweet talk you to sex chats and videos.
I remembered one of the lines in the viral interviewed BBC VIDEO UNIVERSITY OF LAGOS AND UNIVERSITY OF GHANA, SEX FOR GRADES lecturer.
The lecturer tells most of his victims “SWEET AND EROTIC WORDS”.
5. ENTICE YOU WITH MARRIAGE PROMISE.
They promise you marriage as if they are doing you favor by marrying you.
They say you are not wife material once you cannot meet up with their sexual, financial and ungodly demands.
Because he proposed doesn’t mean he should examine all the local government in your body before marriage.
Because he proposed doesn’t mean you should turn to his cook and washing machine.
Don’t ever fall for that lie of the devil coming out of him.
6. NO PUBLIC DISPLAY OF LOVE.
A player will always want you to do things in secret.
He would never come to meet your family.
He would rarely introduce you to his family members and friends.
He would usually avoid people from seeing you together in the public.
Everything is secret
7. HE DOES NOT CORRECT YOU.
A player knows you are not permanent in his life.
He would only talk about something that’s of short term benefits.
He would rarely correct you when you do something that’s wrong.
He would support you to fight your spiritual leaders or mentors, friends and family just for you to be together and for his own personal gain.
8. LOOSES COUNT OF EXES.
Players, playboys and virgin hunters have lost count of the number of ladies they have dated, slept with and dumped.
Once he starts saying his exes do not deny him sex, watches his clothes and cook for him regularly ; my sister, you have fallen into the hand of a player, run as fast as your leg can carry you!
9. FULL OF LIES.
They are always telling lies about money, job, family and everything.
They have line of series of lies.
They are pathological and unrepentant liars.
Even after you catch him red handed, he would still manipulate you with lies and make you feel guilty and you would start apologizing.
Most things about them are lies.
10. NO ACCESS TO HIS PERSONAL BELONGINGS.
He won’t give you password to his phone or wipe OFF chats easily.
You do not have sex to his Facebook password while he has yours.
He would fight you for visiting him without calling.
11. UNUSUAL CLOSENESS TO OPPOSITE SEX.
Players makes several ladies their BESTIE so that they can sleep with them.
They encourage ladies to sleep over in their room alone with him.
They beg ladies to be their reading, prayers and Bible study partner so that they can sleep with them.
They touch breasts and bumbum of ladies easily and give seductive complements.
How can you avoid a PLAYER, PLAYBOY OR VIRGIN HUNTER?
His answers to the following questions would help you:
1. Can you share with me your salvation experience?
Don’t ever accept he is a Christian.
Most players don’t have genuine salvation experience or don’t have an encounter with the holy spirit.
2.Can you share with me your holy ghost baptism experience with the evidence of speaking in tongues?
Because he speaks in tongues does not mean he’s not a player but check his fruit of the spirit also.
We have many players who learnt speaking in tongues already.
Don’t be deceived!
Some are using the tongues of the devil.
Their tongues are corrupted.
3. What is your vision in life ?
4. What’s your purpose/calling in life?
5. What unit are you serving in your local church?
6. What are your spiritual gifts?
7. What’s your view about premarital sex and sexual purity till marriage?
8. What’s your view about cheating in relationship or marriage?
9. What’s your view about second wife?
10. What’s your view about sexual, verbal, emotional, psychological, financial and physical abuse in relationship or marriage?
11. Who are your converts/mentees?
Mathew 7 :
KJV:Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.
KJV:Enter ye in at the strait gate: for wide is the gate, and broad is the way, that leadeth to destruction, and many there be which go in thereat:
KJV:Because strait is the gate, and narrow is the way, which leadeth unto life, and few there be that find it.
KJV:Beware of false prophets, which come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravening wolves.
KJV:Ye shall know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes of thorns, or figs of thistles?
KJV:Even so every good tree bringeth forth good fruit; but a corrupt tree bringeth forth evil fruit.
KJV:A good tree cannot bring forth evil fruit, neither can a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit.
KJV:Every tree that bringeth not forth good fruit is hewn down, and cast into the fire.
KJV:Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them.
KJV:Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven.
KJV:Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works?
KJV:And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity–Aderopo Hezekiah Oluwaniyi