What is submission?
According to the dictionary, it means; the act of submitting.
1. To yield or give way to another.
2. To accept authority or greater strength of somebody/something and to agree to something because of this.
3. Willing to obey somebody, whatever they want you to do.
Having dealt with that, I want to assert that this post is for people who wish to know the mind of God concerning submission in marriage.
And further, SUBMIT to ONE ANOTHER out of reverence for Christ.
Excuse me, what do you understand from this? Both partners are under the obligation to submission. It’s a two way something. I submit to you and you submit to me.
Ephesians 5:22-24 (The Message)
“Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. So just as the church submits to Christ as he exercises such leadership, wives should likewise submit to their husbands.”
This means? As a man is submitting to Christ, the tendency of a transformed man, is to cherish His wife. His method of leadership is not autocratic. He’s NOT DOMINEERING. A woman will be happy to submit to a man who is not domineering and who cherishes her. This is where submitting to one another comes in again. If he’s not domineering and imposing his own opinion on you, then that means he will listen to what you have to say and consider it with you because, you’re joined together as one body.
That means, marry a man who has submitted to Christ and whom you can submit to. That means, marry a woman whom you can cherish and love so much, that she literally becomes your heart. If you lead her with love and respect, she’ll be very happy to submit to you. The submission will come effortlessly. It becomes a default setting because, she was loved the right way.
“No one abuses his own body, does he? No, he feeds and pampers it. That’s how Christ treats us, the church, since we are part of his body. And this is why a man leaves father and mother and cherishes his wife. No longer two, they become “one flesh.” This is a huge mystery, and I don’t pretend to understand it all. What is clearest to me is the way Christ treats the church. And this provides a good picture of how each husband is to treat his wife, loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to honor her husband.”
The golden rule is this, do unto others what you’d like them to do unto you. It is only an insecure man that insists on autocracy. It’s only a man who doesn’t love his wife, that dominates her. If you cherish her, you’ll never want to hurt her. As she feels that love, her automatic reaction to it, is respectful submission. He will never do anything to hurt me, he listens to me and I will submit to him.
If my own suggestion is better, we do it my way. If his own suggestion is better, we do it his way. I’ll agree to his own when he’s right, simply because he’s my beloved leader. I’ll agree to her own when she’s right, simply because, I love her so much. That’s submitting to one another. That is why it is not good for a man to be alone. I’ll be his companion, both in decision making and in all ramifications. We have become one flesh.
18. Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting for those who belong to the Lord.
19. Husbands, love your wives and never treat them harshly.
Women who belong to Christ, are submissive. Never treat her harshly. Love her and she’ll submit to you.
Don’t marry a man you cannot submit to.
Don’t marry a woman you cannot cherish.
Bless you.–Adaeze Rosemary Possible